Dab on all my Haters
Recently, I heard a few 5th-grade students talking about playing video games after school. I heard them saying —“yep I dab on all my haters.” And of course, they did the dab move. The others laughed and while they were not talking to me, I heard it and smiled at the popularity of the comment/ move. The professional athletes who made this phrase popular should be happy.
But later that night, I thought about what they were saying----
How much are we haters?
Recently an associate had a major accomplishment and they were very proud of. They worked very hard to accomplish a long sought after goal. While on the surface I pretended to celebrate the person’s good fortune I was very envious. I really was. Why?
Not because they didn’t earn this accomplishment. Not because they are some mean spirited evil person who does not deserve this accolade, Not because they re going to make a fortune from this accomplishment overnight
Do we sometimes have a hard time being happy for others?
I was listening to a message from a rather popular spiritual leader. He passed on a very powerful lesson…” it’s very interesting that many of us don’t have a problem with others having things….we just don’t want them to have exactly what we have. And even if they have what we have---they can’t be equal to us. Somehow that makes us feel threatened, when others, especially our peers or someone we deem to be below us, are suddenly our equals. He mentioned that we needed to remember another person’s success should NOT diminish our accomplishments.
But for haters-----it does
[caption id="attachment_115" align="alignnone" width="1880"] Photo by Binyamin Mellish on Pexels.com[/caption]
I remember when I bought my home. I was very blessed to be a part of a federal program designed for first-time homeowners created in 2010. I was sharing the process with a “friend”. Sometimes some of the red tape got very tangled and I would vent to her. She would make little snarky comments like “I didn’t have to go through that when I bought my home” or “why are you doing that? They didn’t ask me that” When she finally saw my home, she said---“that’s it? These little houses with no back door? OH”
Are you a hater? Do you celebrate your friend's victories or do you secretly despise them? If you despise them why? Their path is theirs to travel and yours is yours. Privilege is always threatened by equality
We all receive different blessings and fortunes. And you never know what someone else went through to get their blessing. Nothing good comes for comparing your self with someone else…
Many of us feel the following (feel free to check all that apply or have applied )
Its not that you have…..its that you have what I have
People don’t care if you get paid---just don’ get paid across lines (gender or racial) lines as they do
I don’t mind you climbing the ladder, as long as I am ahead of you on the ladder
I don’t care (when really you do)
How wrong are we to be angry about someone being blessed when their blessing DOES NOT threaten you/your house at all
That person who is upset about your blessing operates in that economy of scarcity and lack. They believe that you’re getting something is at their expense but that’s not how it works
GOD is not limited--- there is enough abundance out here for everyone.
And finally, remember it depends who you are comparing yourself to and who you are hating ---you never know what’s behind closed doors. Of course, I don’t have the wealth of Oprah, but I am certainly living well compared to the panhandling woman I gave three dollars to earlier today.
Don’t be a hater. It's not a good look.
Love and Light
The Artsy Diva
[caption id="attachment_media-33" align="alignnone" width="309"] Photo by Pixabay on Pexels.com[/caption]